Thursday, September 25, 2008

Would You Marry You?

So, I came across this article, and was surprised at my gut reaction to the question: No.

This response then prompted me to spend the last week (yes, week) asking myself “why?”

What did I find so wrong with myself that I wouldn’t even consider marrying me?

Am I that difficult?

Is that one reason why I’m not married right now?

Do I expect perfection?

Is that another reason why I’m not married right now?

And if I were married, would I be disappointed?

Is that a third reason why I’m not married right now?

Needless to say, this week has made me a little bummed…But, it’s also made me double my efforts in fixing my faults, and improving my talents! And, honestly, it’s made me grateful that I have the chance to do so.

This life is all about refining ourselves, right?

So, what do you think? Would you marry you?


Andrea said...

I plead the fifth on this one. This is a very tough, yet thought provoking question. Now that I think of it, I have so many faults and areas that I need to work on so that I can someday answer yes to it. Thanks for making me think a little, Liz.

Nouveau Riche said...

Wow, I'm not sure I would marry me either. My husband is the fun one.

Rachel said...

I've been thinking about this for about a week now too(there must be something in the air that causes painful self-reflection). I've come to the conclusion that there are a million and one things that I need to improve on BUT they are things that I CAN improve on and want to improve on anyway. Not just because it would make me a better potential spouse but a better friend and daughter and sister and all around better person. Plus, if I didn't have things to work on then I would be perfect, which would make me even more obnoxious to be around then I already am. (The first thing on my list of things to improve is to be less obnoxious. Serioulsy.)

Remind me to tell you about some thoughts I had while sitting in RS last week and the women were talking about what will happen to single women who never get married.

Anonymous said...

How can I marry me when I'm gonna marry you, Liz? I'm not some appalling two-timing tart...all the time...

I'd totally marry me. I'm a fox, I dance, and I'd let me take naps.

Wendy said...

I would marry me. And I say that even knowing that marriage can highlight things we don't like about ourselves so much. Sure, some things I do aren't ideal, and I'm always feeling the need to "work on" some things about myself...but overall I think I'd find myself to be a good spouse. And it would be so fun to hang out with myself, and buy myself just what I wanted for every gift giving occasion.

Amanda said...

I'm a catch! He-he-he.
As I was typing my first two responses that I backspaced through, I realized there were two different ways to look at it.
If I was to marry myself with the mentality of a man, I think I'd be more than happy to marry me. Men seem in general to be much less complicated in what they are looking for/need from a wife. John's got it good and he knows it.
If I was thinking about marrying myself from a woman's perspective, I would be slightly more hesitant to say yes without hesitation, but I still think I'd be a lucky gal. I hope this isn't sounding all conceited, but you guys love me anyway, so there you are. I like myself a lot and really enjoy spending time alone. I think I would find myself slightly obnoxious (Rachel, I don't think you are obnoxious at all) because when I meet people that I think are over the top a little, I always think 'people probably get that from me too,' but overall, I think Amanda and Amanda would have lots of fun. As long as the other Amanda could admit that she was wrong in arguements, we would be just fine. :_

colleeeen said...

you don't know me. but hmmm. i can be really fun. but i am also a total nutjob. sometimes i feel like i tricked my husband into marrying me, although i must have done it subconsciously. he was an easy mark. ;) if i married me, we'd probably be living in a hut in some developing country, trying to do some misguided good and then we'd end up just as poor as the people we were trying to help. hmmm.