The List

AVAILABLE MEN FOR SINGLE WOMEN IN THEIR 30’S: (I’m working on a catchier title)

1. Never-Been-Married Man:

Lucky Find: A man in his 30’s who is normal, well-adjusted, employed, faithful, and not addicted to anything destructive. These men are very hard to find. I think there are only about 8 of them left in the wild.

Likely Find: A man in his 30’s who seems normal, well-adjusted, employed, faithful, and not addicted to anything destructive, but actually is odd and/or crazy which is why he has never been married.

Incidentally, there is another category here that includes a man who is wonderful in every way, but has not yet come to terms with the fact that he doesn’t like girls (and there seems to be a lot of these).

2. Once-Married-But-Divorced Man*:

Lucky Find: A man in his 30’s who is normal, well-adjusted, employed, faithful, not addicted to anything destructive, and has been married, but is now divorced. These men are more plentiful than Lucky option number one, but they do carry some baggage that will have to be dealt with (which is usually not a problem because he’s a great guy).

Likely Find: A man in his 30’s who is divorced, and you can tell why (although, he doesn't see it and completely blames the other person). These guys are everywhere! Poor fellows.

3. Once-Married-But-Now-A-Widower Man*:

Lucky Find: A man in his 30’s who is normal, well-adjusted, employed, faithful, not addicted to anything destructive, and has been married, but who’s wife has died. These men are not as abundant as divorced guy, but the older YOU get, the more they appear. Again, since he’s such a quality man, it’s usually not a problem**.

Likely Find: A man in his 30’s who once was normal, well-adjusted, etc., but because of the loss of his wife, he is no longer any of those things. You feel sorry for the guy, and want to help him heal, but beware, it's a trap.



* Whether he's a Lucky or Likely Find, if he has children, that complicates things dramatically. Don’t get me wrong, if he’s the Lucky one, it’s worth it. But, if he’s the other kind, walk away quickly. You don’t need that mess.

** My only problem with Widower Man is that I would then be his wife number two. And those of you who know me, know my motto is “I’m wife number one, or wife number none. Wife number two, won’t do.” So this would be hard for me, personally. But, given the right spiritual promptings, I could get over it (I think).